In our last post we addressed the question: Is It Love or Lust? And we looked at several scriptures examining Good Lust and Bad Lust.
The Contrast Between Bad Lust vs. Good Lust
Bad Lust is always about “Receiving for Self”
Good Lust is always about “Giving of Self”
Bad Lust is all about self.
Love produces Good Lust and Selfishness produces Bad Lust. The root of all Bad Lust begins and ends with selfishness.
Good Lust or desires (which love produces) is always about pleasing God and others, never self.
There are many, if not most bad lusts, as Saints of God, that we very easily can discern and recognize as “Bad” lusts such as:
* Lusting for pornography, someone else’s spouse, homosexuality, fleshly things, etc…
* Lusting for drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, etc…
* Lusting for foods we know are not good for us and are killing us, etc…
* Lusting for money and material things we don’t need and can’t even afford, etc….
Most of us – Saints – know these are wrong even if we don’t admit it. However, it is the Bad Lust that disguises itself as love, that is giving us the most trouble, especially in our relationships (specifically marriages).
We must remember that What Love Produces is different that What Love Is. It is important to really know this because love and lust also produce some of the same things.
To answer the question; Is It Love or Lust, we must remember that Love is NOT lust.
Lust is not a bad thing in and of itself. Lust is simply a strong desire for a person, place, or thing. It’s what we are lusting for and why we are lusting that determines whither it is Bad Lust or Good Lust.
Listen with your spiritual ears and read this:
King James Version (KJV)
4 From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?
2 Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not.
3 Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.
How many of our marriages feel like we are warring and fighting? Remember, what the definition of Lust is: “A Passionate Strong Desire”.
The Word of God tells us right here in James 4:1, that wars and fighting’s among us come from our lusts, that war in our body (not just talking about sexual desires here).
Let’s read James 4:2-3 from the Amplified Version of the Holy Bible:
Amplified Bible (AMP)
2 You are jealous and covet [what others have] and your desires go unfulfilled; [so] you become murderers. [To hate is to murder as far as your hearts are concerned.] You burn with envy and anger and are not able to obtain [the gratification, the contentment, and the happiness that you seek], so you fight and war. You do not have, because you do not ask.
How many of us desire to have a happy marriage, or at the very least, a peaceful marriage – but do not?
How many of us feel like we have tried everything we could and know how to do – to obtain this a good marriage to no avail?
How many of us have so little hope in saving our marriages that we don’t even sincerely pray to God any longer to save it?
Amplified Bible (AMP)
3 [Or] you do ask [God for them] and yet fail to receive, because you ask with wrong purpose and evil, selfish motives. Your intention is [when you get what you desire] to spend it in sensual pleasures.
How many of us have asked God to help our marriages, but have not received a thing? Could it be, that we have not received an answer from the Lord because of what James 4: 3 says – because the purpose and motive behind that prayer was a selfish desire or lust?
Many of you are saying or thinking to yourself right now “I do not have a lust problem in my marriage, I have a love problem in my marriage.” (many marriages have both of these problems)
Remember we said; Bad Lust is always about receiving for self and that sometimes it disguises itself as love.
We have a lot more to reveal and teach on the this theme: Is It Love or Lust, so please join us in our next post.
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God bless you,